In a relationship, comfort is not always present. In fact, I have seen more fearful partners than comfortable ones.
Makes me wonder, does the fearful one know that the other one is probably not aware of the fear they are instilling? Does the fearful one know they are afraid?
It looks like this:
One person says, “I like it quiet when I watch the news.” The partner’s shoulders rise and no words are spoken. The partner had just finished laughing at the commercial.
When does this happen? Certainly not while the two were in love. Certainly not during the infatuation stage. But sometime when the fearful one heard a comment that they knew applied to themselves and they didn’t respond. Maybe it wouldn’t bode well if they did.
Seeds of fear grow into plants of doubt. Plants of doubt cover the sun and relationships reside in shadow.
Do you like yourself well enough to say what it is you feel? Do you like your significant other well enough to say what you think? Can you speak without angst? Can you stand in the sunlight of who you are and not be afraid?
I was a fearful child and young adult. I lived that way until one day, the source of my fear was gone. It was then I knew; I had been afraid, and of what? Nothing. The strongest sensation of fear, once gone, led me to become more familiar with myself, like myself and learn I am OK.